Getting Into the Details: Resolution #1

1. Do a handstand.

I have always wanted to do a cartwheel, a backbend, a handstand. My little sister was a gymnast, so these things were effortless to her. I, on the other hand, was remarkably unathletic, so after a couple of attempts as a child, I never tried again. Since I turned 30, I’ve had an on-and-off relationship with running and working out. The last year is probably the most serious I’ve taken my fitness. I trained for a half-marathon, but ended up running a 15k race instead because those last few training miles were beyond miserable. I’ve done a lot of hiking and trail running, and a  little bit of rock climbing. I’ve tried hot yoga and HIIT, but have found that I kind of enjoy using weights at the gym more than anything. Most importantly, I’ve come to realize I can actually set fitness goals for myself and achieve them.

So when enviously looking at all the yoga practioners in my Instagram feed, it came to me: I can do a handstand too! I just need to work at it. I found a straightforward guide from Chris Salvato that tackles all my fears (I’m too weak! I’ll fall over!) and offers a 28-day training program. I’ve started by adding one-minute planks to my ab days. No, I won’t have this accomplished in 28 days, because I have a lot of shoulder and wrist strength to build first. But I’m actually taking steps to do it! This is a Big Deal for me. It’s honestly barely even occurred to me, throughout my life, to set goals and then work towards reaching those goals. I know for most people it’s a No Duh kind of thing; I have no idea what took me so long. The important thing is that I’m doing it now, right?

 

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I will turn 40 this year.

With this in mind, I would like to put some of my 2015 goals out there:

1. Learn to do a handstand.

2. Pay off our credit card debt, and the personal loans as well. Bonus points for paying off my car. This will involve being frugal instead of buying pretty much everything we’ve wanted and taking lots of vacations, which we did in 2014.  I do want to be careful to allow ourselves some degree of spending without guilt. Last year we were incredibly frugal January through March, but the restriction then resulted in us kind of losing our minds the rest of the year.

3. Be less anal. I am unfortunately becoming obsessive about details, causing me to miss out on some of the fun of actually doing. We just spent a week at the beach with our families. It was our Christmas gift to them. I spent the first half of the trip worrying about everything that was wrong and not as perfect as I’d imagined, and the second half of the trip regretting being so anxious about the imperfections. I don’t know how I will go about chilling out, so more to come on that.

4. Run a half marathon

5. Downsize. This will involve selling our lovely 2400 square foot townhouse for a much smaller (and cheaper!) condo, along with a LOT of the stuff that occupies said townhouse.

6. Meditate. The Headspace app has been recommended to me, so I will be giving it a try.

7. Drink less. Yes, the name of this blog is Gin is my Comfort Food, and it really is. I know I am self-medicating to some degree with booze. I need to find a healthy mix so I can enjoy a glass of wine or a couple of cocktails,rather than drinking excessively. I’ve also noticed that when I go from totally abstaining to drinking again, I tend to overdo it, so I’d really like to work on the happy medium.

I’d like to pause here and point out that I am noticing a theme here: Balance, both literal (handstand) and figurative (improving my mental/fiscal/physical health).

8. Go to counseling with my husband. Overall, we are very lucky to still be madly in love after 14 years together, but we’ve been having some of the same fights for the majority of those 14 years, and they are wearing us down. I know we’d each benefit greatly by learning to understand each other better.

9. Write. Remember to keep something with me at all times to jot down ideas. Especially when I’m running. I would like this blog to be fun and useful for me to write.

10. Continue to evolve my relationship with food. Man, do I like food. I LOVE to eat. For the most part I keep it in check, but again, like with drinking, when I am very restrictive, I go into binge-mode once the restrictions have been lifted. Lately, I haven’t really cut out anything from my diet, and I’ve been good about running and going to the gym, and I’ve definitely been happy with the results. I do feel guilty about all the meat I’ve been eating, and with the holidays, I consumed much more sugar that I’d like. I am going into the New Year with my diet still a work-in-progress. We want to focus first on eating what we already have, as part of spending less so we can pay down our debt.

11. Try some minimalism projects. I love the idea of these! But just thinking about them makes me nervous, which is probably a sign I need to give them a shot. Luckily, I think some of my other goals with naturally lead into a minimalist ideal: downsizing, not buying new clothes, eating what we have, focusing more on exercising, etc.

 

I was going to have either 10 or 12 goals, because 10 is a nice round even number, and 12 matches the months of the year. But instead, I will leave this list at a sort-of-uncomfortable 11, because progress (see #3).