January Check-In

The first month of 2015 is almost over! On the one hand, I would say I can’t believe it’s almost February. But on the other, this month was so full and busy that it seems like a lot has happened.

Writing this blog has really helped me to be thoughtful about what I want to accomplish this year. I’ve enjoyed “getting into the details” about each of my resolutions. It’s required a lot of soul searching, some of which has been uncomfortable, but all of which has been valuable.

  1. Handstand: I’m trying to build up strength in my wrists and shoulders. I have a hardcore planking workout once a week and sneak in some shorter planks here and there. I need to increase this to a one-minute plank daily.
  2. Debt: We started January with four zero-interest credit card balances. We paid off the smallest ($800) this month. I’m hoping to pay off one of two personal loans in February.
  3. Being anal: I’m making a concerted effort to be more go-with-the-flow and less of a planner/perfectionist. But dude, it is in my blood. This will be a tough challenge to say the least. I have been better about saying yes to things though. My husband scheduled us for dance lessons and I didn’t even try to argue 🙂 It’s something we’ve talked about forever and I love that he took the initiative to schedule it on his own.
  4. Half-marathon: This is probably my biggest success this month. After tomorrow’s 7-miler, that will be 59 miles for January. This does not count all the extra steps I’m taking to meet my daily Fitbit goal or twice-a-week gym sessions.
  5. Downsize: In preparation to put our house on the market, I cleaned out the big storage closet in the garage and the downstairs coat closet. I threw out a huge trashcan-ful of old Christmas stuff and tons of “memory” kind of stuff, including all my yearbooks but senior year. I sent another big bag to Thred Up. I also started a “sell” pile in the garage and a “donate” pile in the office. Not as much as I’d hoped to get done this month, but not a bad start.
  6. Meditate: Not so much of a success. I used the Headspace app all of one entire time. It was nice but I haven’t felt motivated to do it again. I will though!
  7. Booze: Also not so much of a success. I made it four whole days without a drink, when I’d wanted to skip alcohol for the entire month. I haven’t been drinking on Mondays, and I’m only having a glass of wine or two most other days. Last Friday night was probably the worst, when we were lucky enough to get free tickets to the Hawks game, in a suite that included lots of free drinks. But it was a very spontaneous night, so that’s sort of a point for me being less anal, right? Anyway, I’m thinking a lot about alcohol and whether I have a dependence on it or I just enjoy relaxing with it. Work in progress.
  8. Counseling: My husband has started anger-management therapy. We’ve had a couple of good, honest conversations as a result of what he’s learning. No, this is not couples’ therapy, but it’s opening a dialogue between us that is really positive. We’ll look into counseling together later in the year.
  9. Write: This blog has been great in getting me to write! I’m enjoying putting my thoughts down, and love the feedback from readers. I’m also loving this little blogging community, which is something I wasn’t expecting. I think it would be easy for this blog to take up a lot more of my time, which makes me feel stressed. Ultimately, I’m writing this for myself, so for now, I don’t need to worry about how many pageviews I have (spoiler: not many).
  10. Eating: I think this has been a good month. I’m definitely not focused on weightloss at all right now. I want to be healthy and feel good and give my body the fuel it needs for running. Most of the month I was avoiding gluten, but that’s changed as I’m needing more carbs. Not having any dietary restrictions is a crazy feeling. I’m currently eating meat, which I don’t love, but I’m really craving it. I spent most of the fall on a keto diet, so it’s liberating to eat some bread now and then. The past two nights we’ve had homemade beef pot pie, which is breaking so many rules I don’t even know what to do 🙂
  11. Minimalism: This goes along with my downsizing goal. I’m focused on getting rid of a lot of our stuff. Right now, I’m going through my clothes and getting rid of things that I don’t totally love. I’m going to try Tradesy which I just learned about yesterday, to sell some of my nicer things. Looking towards that capsule wardrobe!
  12. Empathy: I have been focused on two people with this goal this month: my husband and one of my co-workers. I’ll be honest, this is tough for me. Less so with my husband; I love the changes he’s working towards right now. As much as he has triggers with anger, I’m learning that I do too, and that’s helping me be less defensive when we’re about to argue. Don’t get me wrong, I have a loooong way to go, but being more aware is really helping. With my co-worker, it’s different. I don’t understand my lack of patience with her. I don’t know why I feel so judgy with her. We did have one really good conversation this month, in which I really listened to her point of view and realized I was misjudging some of her actions. But on the other hand, I still think she’s so lazy and self-delusional. Oof. Another work in progress.
  13. Volunteering: I tried to do good deeds on MLK Day but wasn’t so successful. I do have volunteer orientation on Monday for an animal rescue group, and I’m scheduled for another blood drive the Monday after that. February will be a more successful month 🙂
  14. Travel: I’m surprised how hard it’s been to remember my goal of traveling less, but more memorably. I’m looking at hotels all day at work (since I work for a hotel company), so the temptation is constant! I booked a super cute cabin in Asheville for our anniversary in May, and I think we’re going camping in March. So far, those are the only trips we’ve planned. But I keep checking for employee rates for little getaways, and I’m all over VRBO thinking about next fall. I think the planning part of me drives a lot of this, so I’ve been trying to find other things to plan (like getting out of debt!).
  15. Job: It’s been a relatively bad week at work, so this is really on my mind. I do want to stick around for the next few months though. We have a fun conference in February; I think I’m going to Portland in April; and we’ll *hopefully* be getting our bonuses in the spring as well. But this week has been a reminder that there are things I can’t change about my current role, the most important of which is the lack of development and growth opportunities. I do want to stay in my company, but if that doesn’t work, I’m open to leaving. I’m going to start seriously looking for some interesting roles in the spring/summer.

Looking back over this month, there have been failures and successes. Overall, I’m feeling so good about 2015 🙂

What about you? Are you making progress on your resolutions?


5 thoughts on “January Check-In

  1. Pingback: On Self-Compassion | Gin is my Comfort Food

  2. That is a ton of goals but it sounds like you really are doing well! I love that you are so honest. I am not doing great with most of my resolutions but I should probably write out an inventory like this so I may be able to see the small successes. Thanks for the post!

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    • Thanks, Melanie! I’m finding it really important to take note of the small things, since there’s no way to make major changes in one fell swoop. (Is that really a saying? It’s odd to see it typed out, haha.) My 2015 mantra of “progress, not perfection” is helping me to be honest with myself, about the good and the bad. Thanks for your comments!


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