Throughout the day yesterday, I thought about the resolutions I had made, and realized I left a couple of things out.
12. Practice empathy, be more compassionate and stop being so judgy. I am very open and accepting about the idea of people making choices that are different from mine, but the truth is, that I have a hard time dealing with most of the people I’m around on an almost-daily basis (primarily my co-workers). I also do this with my husband. I don’t know how to describe the feelings I get: sort of angry, definitely disapproving, a little bit annoyed. It’s ultimately none of my business, even if their choices are making them sad and/or unhealthy, and even if I think I have it ALL FIGURED OUT. Because obviously, I don’t, or I wouldn’t be making all these dang resolutions.
13. Do a volunteer activity once a month. I used to be very involved with nonprofits in my area, but after business school and finally getting a “real” job a few years ago, my volunteering really fell off. I still donate money, but it’s rare that I ever donate my time any more. I have issues with obligation and resentment (more on that in the future), but I know I can carve out a few hours here and there and just enjoy it. We also are going to better focus our giving this year. Rather than shelling out $20 to a random assortment of causes and other people’s pet projects, we’ll be looking for fun events to attend, supporting local organizations that matter to us.
14. Travel less often, but more memorably. I think most people are resolving to travel more, but we took a lot of trips in 2014, I was looking at pictures on Facebook yesterday, and realized we traveled so much I had completely forgotten some of the trips we took! I know, I know – first world problems. I work for a hotel company and get discounted rates, and all but one of our trips were to states bordering our own. This year, it’s our fifth wedding anniversary and my 40th birthday, so I’d like those trips to be kind of special. We’re also planning a December trip to the West coast for my best friend’s 40th birthday. If we include my husband’s birthday, that’s four trips to make special. Most of the last-minute, long-weekend road trips were pretty stressful anyway.
15. Find a new job. This could be a new role at my current company (my preferred option), or a new role at a new company. Either way, it’s past time I admit I’m burned out and bored in my current role.
There it is: 15 Resolutions for 2015. Overwhelming? Maybe. But most of these are things I’ve been thinking about for a long time, or even already doing a little. I’m excited to use this blog to explore them all and keep track of my progress.